Experiencing real intimacy with a woman for the first time in almost 30 years
I met Kait after years of having given up on experiencing myself as a sexual person. I pretty much figured that past trauma, unsatisfying relationships and feeling scared and avoidant about sex and being sexual were all that was left for me. I was hesitant at first to work with her and the outlines of our work were unfamiliar, something that both increased my anxiety and fueled a sense of hopelessness about trying a different kind of work. The process of learning how to communicate more honestly and directly was incredibly exciting and moving. With Kait, I learned more about accepting myself and approaching what I might need—not only about sexual connection, but about connecting with anyone at all—than I’ve probably learned in any adult relationship. It does not mean that I lost all my fear or everything has worked out happily ever after. It does mean that Kait’s combination of lovingkindness, skill and wisdom in helping me to recover parts of my life and vitality that have been lost or deeply buried was profoundly transformative for me. I directly credit her work with me in allowing me to experience real intimacy with a woman for the first time in almost 30 years. Perhaps more important I was able to learn much more about how to experience and articulate my own feelings, bodily states, wishes and desires. Working with Kait was like going to a great school to learn how to be a better human, much more rooted in the truth.